The Social Good Summit

Hi, thanks for stopping by,

I mentioned on Facebook a couple of weeks ago that I recently that I attended the Social Good Summit. A big thank you to my coach (hey Naomi!) for the ticket and for the company!

The Social Good Summit is run in 80 countries around the world and asks the question "How Will We Create a Better World by 2030" to which I casually reply "I have no freakin' idea but I do know I'm going to need a coffee first".

What I'm embarrassed to admit I didn't know is that the United Nations already has a blueprint for answering that very question. Brilliant! Otherwise known as the 'Sustainability Development Goals' or SDGs for those in the loop, the Social Good Summit is an opportunity to hear from people who are in the trenches to create a better world by 2030.

The day itself was a little overwhelming, I mean, these people are like me and you and they're making a MONUMENTAL difference in the lives of others. I'm sitting there engaged, inspired and desperately trying to overcome the thought, 'yeah, good for you but who am I? '... that is until I heard Simon Rowe from Sleepbus say this;

"I always wondered why someone hadn't done anything about the homeless problem until I realised... I AM SOMEONE"

Okay, so no more excuses...except thait's hard, right? I get it. We ALL want to make a change for ourselves and for others but how do we do that? What's the blueprint? How do we actually make that happen? HOW. It's so hard!

I don't pretend to have all of the answers but here's what I learned from the Social Good Summit, and yes, it's a supremely simplified version of how I'm going to try and quiet those 'who am I?' doubts to allow me to JUST.KEEP.GOING.

1. You don't have to have it all figured out to get started. Just start.
Anna McGregor from Pollinate shared the story of buying one solar light to help one family in one slum in India. That one act let to reaching 80,000 people and close to 2,000 communities. It might seem too big of an issue, too big of a leap, too many obstacles, too hard. That's okay. Just START.
Do one thing, then do another, then do another, then....

2. You'll mess up...and that's okay
Peter Yao from The Thankyou Group talked about the first launch of their bottled water. Years of hard work and no investment led to one moment of launching this incredibly ambitious idea. It was TIME! Ultimately though, that initial launch was recalled due to incorrect labeling. Years of hard work and investment was lost because the guy looking after quality assurance at the factory went on a holiday. Devastating? Sure! Did messing up stop them? Nope! The Thankyou Group have since since launched new products and are currently lobbying Virgin to supply their airlines with food and water. Whoa.

I'll mess up and you'll mess up and others will mess up on our behalf. Just. Keep. Going.

3. Don't be afraid of a big, crazy idea! There ARE people out there who will believe in you AND your idea.
Simon Rowe from Sleepbus has, on the surface, a crazy idea. 'Let's get 319 buses and convert them in to homeless shelters.' Okay bud, how are you going to fund this? How are you going to get homeless people on buses? I've slept on a bus and it was it incredibly uncomfortable! Alas, Simon has overcome all of these limiting beliefs. He's designing secure 'pods' on the buses and has corporate sponsors on board, all in the space on 6 months. Yep, 6 months. Yep, it's possible.

So, as I navigate my own desire for change, whether personal or global, big or small, I'll keep these lessons in my back pocket to give me the little surge I need to Just.Keep.Going. I hope it does the same for you.

Much love,
Kathleen xo
 

The Wisdom Project

So, I've been talking about this *thing* called 'The Wisdom Project' for a while now. It's taken me some time to get it off the ground and although it seems to have taken forever for you (what is it already?!) it's taken far longer for me.

I've been marinating on this idea for about 10 years, probably longer. It's an idea that I've started, stopped, procrastinated over and now I'm finally ready to commit to it. The timing is right. Let's go.

The Wisdom Project

Right now, the world feels 5 steps away from imploding on all of us. There's a lot of fear, uncertainty, helplessness and a profound sense of scarcity. We're spinning in circles trying to grasp something that's real and useful and will help us in some way, somehow. We're looking for a security blanket to hold to feel safe and to feel that everything is going to be okay, that WE are going to be okay.

Despite having unprecedented access to knowledge and advice we're not a lot closer to having our endless questions answered. It's all too much, too confusing and a lot of times we struggle to find the relevance for ourselves. How does this help us in our situation exactly?

Lucky for us, we have an incredible source for amazing, inspirational, practical, authentic guidance from people who've seen the world implode and survived, who've lived their own tragedies and thrived, who have amazing stories to share and incredible wisdom to pass on.

Unfortunately, right now, that wisdom and those stories are sitting in our nursing homes, they're sitting alone in houses passing the time until their next family visit (if they have one). We've somehow forgotten to learn from those who've lived it, our elders, our wise ones, the ones we used to sit and listen to, revere and learn from.

That's where The Wisdom Project comes in. I'm on a mission to talk to as many of our 'ageing population' as possible. I'm here to honour their story and to share their wisdom with you.

I will be launching the social media parts of this project in the coming months but please reach out if you know someone who'd be great to interview, or, please let me know if you have connections to this world so I can arrange MORE interviews!

If nothing else, take some time to sit and have a coffee with your elderly relatives or to talk to the older gentleman sitting alone at the park with his dog. They all have a story to share and it's more than likely going to blow your mind.

I'll keep you up to date on how we're tracking and share the stories as I go but I'll leave you this little nugget of gold from Dawn, an 83 year old I met for coffee and a Monte Carlo biscuit last week.

"Getting old creeps up on you so my advice is to go out and enjoy yourself"

...and on that note, have a sunny weekend

Love,
Kathleen xo

Riding the Change Rollercoaster

The title of my last blog post was ‘Change, urgh, so hard’, which in hindsight was a little negative…but true, right? Yup, unfortunately the reality of any change is that it often feels like you're on a freaking rollercoaster!

Your catalyst for change, that reason you’re wanting to do something differently is like strapping yourself in for the ride. You’ve queued, you’ve waited, you’re ready and you’re committed. The safety bar is down, your seatbelt is on. You’re excited for the ride and can’t wait to go. It’s going to be SO MUCH FUN….although it’s RARELY what you expect and it's definitely NOT always fun!

Here's how the change process usually plays out.

Anxiety
The cart starts to move slowly up the first hill. The hill definitely didn't look as scary while you were in the queue. What have you got yourself into? It's only the start and you're freaking out already! How are you going to get through this!?

Happiness
You're at the top of the first hill and feel ready for the rush. You're holding on tight but you're excited...let’s do this!!

Fear
The cart starts to edge over the hill and picks up speed...quickly, Too quick. Slow down. Wait! Stop! I'm not ready for this!

Threat
I can't do this. This ride is too scary, too many loops, too many hills. TOO MUCH!

Guilt
Well, I only have myself to blame for being on this stupid ride. Why the hell am I doing this for anyway? Why do I do this to myself? I’m an idiot! This is not fun AT ALL

Depression
Oh man, I feel sick, this is awful. I hate this, this is the worst, I’m an idiot…oh man, that’s a loop coming up, this suuuuuucks!

Disillusionment
Let me off this god damn ride, I can't take it anymore!

Hostility
This is ridiculous, who the hell makes a ride like this? What kind of sadistic twisted freak designs this in the name of ‘fun’? Why would anyone want to do this to themselves?

Gradual Acceptance
Alright, this is okay, I’m on the second loop of the rollercoaster, this isn’t so bad. I’m alright. Okay, this might be fun. I think I'm going to make it!

Moving Forward
The end of this ride is coming up. That wasn’t so bad, in fact, it was pretty fun. Let’s do it again

We experience a myriad of these responses as we go through the process of change. We're up, we're down and sometimes, on those extra *special* days we're upside down!

So, what do you do about it?

The first step is to recognise where you are in the change process.
Last week I was in ‘anxiety’. Oh lord, this running a business thing is so hard, there’s so much to do and to think about it. Planning, marketing, social media, arghhh….SO. MUCH. STUFF. Yesterday I was in Fear. I need to get ‘The Wisdom Project’ cranking and I’m starting from scratch, again…arghh, can I really TRULY do this? Today, I’m in Happiness. I’ve ticked a lot of my list and I’m so excited to get this blog out there. I can DO THIS.

I also have every expectation I’ll be sliding down the other side silently screaming ‘what am I doinnnnngggggg’ soon enough...and you know what? That's totally FINE!

The second step is to know that this part of the ride will pass, you’ll move past it. You WILL move forward. Where you are right now on the ride is perfectly okay if you’ve got the tools to get through it. Which leads me to the third step.

...have a first aid kit with you at all times.
When you’re in each of these states, what can you do? What helps you get through the hositility? What can do you to help you overcome the fear? What is going to help you in that moment to move forward.

The final, and perhaps most important step is recognise when you’ve moved forward, when you’re happy and when things have started to ease. Look back and recognise the struggle, pat yourself on the back, celebrate your success and then summon the courage to get back in line for the next ride.

Looking forward to sitting next to you on the ride!

Much love,
Kathleen xo

PS If you’re on the rollercoaster and you want to get off, or you’re not sure how to move forward please reach out. We still have a place or two available on the LEAP program that aims to address this very concept! www.krcoaching.com.au/leap

 

Choices *urghh*, so hard!

Hi friends,

It's been a long time between blog posts and while I've been working hard on my biz I'm happy to tell you that I've been in period of intense confusion over what I should be doing to move forward in life and in business. So. Much. Confusion.

I've spent countless hours in front of my laptop staring at blank pages hoping for inspiration to strike. It didn't. I meditated on which direction I should go and it proved to be a little *too* expansive. I thought about it. I tried not to think about it. I asked others. I was frustrated and unsatisfied and losing...my...mind.

While I was struggling with action and inaction I was working my booty off at my full time job. It was relentless and hard and incredibly draining both physically and emotionally. Still, I turned up, day after day because that's what resilient people do, right? That's what a good worker does, right? That's what a woman who wants to be successful does, right?

It's was hard to recognise at the time and easy to say now, that I was stuck. Making the right choice was IN MY FACE. I was hearing it, I was seeing it, I was feeling it. I wasn't making it. I was making a choice to be stuck, to remain bullied, underappreciated and overworked. I was choosing that for myself. How freakin' messed up is that? A life coach making a terrible choice. FAIL.

So, I decided to make a different choice. I decided to leave my full time job and commit to my biz 100%. Am I freaked out? Yep! Am I hoping my leap of faith isn't a leap to failure and regret? Hell yes! Do I care? Yes, of course I care if I fail.... Am I happy? I've never been happier.

I don't have it all figured out. I don't have to. I just have to make one good choice after another. I have to take one step at a time.

That's what I want for you, to have the courage to make a different choice and to take action on that choice, despite how scary and confusing and FREAKED OUT you might be.

I've learned a LOT as I've worked through the confusion and taken the leap and I want to share it with you. I will be releasing a coaching mini-series in the coming week called 'LEAP', an all-inclusive coaching series designed to get you from inaction to action, to overcome your fears and challenges and to take that leap with confidence and with conviction.

There's a difference between 'leaping' and 'falling'....that's YOUR choice.

Much love,
Kathleen xo

PS. The 'LEAP' series is limited with places offered to existing clients and subscribers. Head to the homepage to sign up for my newsletter to avoid missing out!

 

 

 

 

The Power of Choice

Hi there lovely,

As I sit here writing this to you I'm casting my eye over the subject of the post. It feels so 'Oprah', so 'Tony Robbins', it feels so familiar and to be honest, it feels a little 'spam-esque'.

So, why am I even bothering to delve into this? Frankly, I'm not convinced we really *get it*. In fact, a quick google on Amazon(dot)com returned 11,766,188 results when I typed in the word "choice". I think it's pretty clear there's something missing here.

We WANT choice, we DON'T want choice, we don't UNDERSTAND choice, we don't HAVE a choice. Yes, okay....I hear you. The thing is, you're wrong.

You have the choice to make decisions that lead you closer to what you want from your life
You have the choice to make decisions that lead you away from what you want in your life
You have the choice for how to interpret and react to situations outside of your control
You have the choice to see the positive in the 'stuck in the mud' moments
You have the choice to eat well, exercise and to feel good about yourself
You have the choice to make a change

I think I'm tip-toeing into Oprah territory (Yeesh!) I'll move on.

Look, I get that we all have chores to do and there situations that are outside of our control that are downright tragic. How you choose to view those chores and what you DO with that tragedy IS a choice.

Hmmm *squints inquisitively*...I get the sense you still don't believe me, after all, there those tragic situations we don't choose.

I will leave you with this quote from 2015 Australian of the Year Rosie Batty. Her son was brutally murdered very publicly by her ex-husband. An undeniable tragedy certainly not chosen by her or her son.

"If Luke hadn't died in such an extreme way, I'd just be one of those 'family violence' people no one listens to...my belief is a tragedy gives you an opportunity to make a difference. I've always admired people who did that" - Rosie Batty

Rosie has since become Australia's leading advocate in profiling the need for a nation wide conversation on domestic violence. Rosie Batty is clearly exercising her power to choose despite the most tragic of circumstances.

Exercising your right to choose is one of the best tools you have. You can use it wisely or waste it, that's 100% your call, just don't do it because I tell you, or a book tells you...or Oprah tells you. You don't NEED anything to start making good choices, you just need to do it!

As for me, I'm making two big choices right now.
1) Choosing my own adventure with this biz-nay
2) Choosing to support and respect choices others are making in their lives.

Kathleen xo

Red Carpet Ready

Hi lovely,

Look, I don't mean to be a jerk given that it's Monday and hyper positive people on Mondays deserve a special place in hell but I wanted to check in quickly to reflect on what I realised watching a bit of the Oscars over lunch today.

I know this is a big call but .... I could TOTALLY rock a red carpet! ... Confident, smiling and at the top of my game? Hell yes I could!

Chances are I'll never get invited to an Oscars ceremony but that doesn't mean I can't OWN what it feels like to walk a red carpet. FEELING like I could is completely within my control and it's within your control too. Yes. It. Is.

Stop admiring and get to it.

Kathleen xo

PS) I'm not even going to go there with the 'looks' discussion ... we all know by now it's not all about the looks, right? Could the best dressed list pull it off without owning it? Nope!

Infiltrating your noggin.

Oh hi, nice to see you... it's been a while, yes?

I haven't contributed anything to this blog for a while. I wish I could apologise and tell you I'm sorry, but... you know, I'm not. There, I said it. Should we hug it out instead? Is this awkward? Okay, let's move on...

What I'm trying to say is that I don't want to be in the situation where I'm serving you loads of spinach, stuff you know is good for you but you're going to hide under your napkin anyway. I only want to serve you the good stuff... the gourmet stuff.

I want to share the stuff I think is going to worm it's way into that noggin of yours. I want to infiltrate that part of your brain that wants to put your hand on your hip, take an attitude stance and nod your head like, 'hell yes, I feel you!'

So, you're in safe hands. I solemnly swear never to blog from my soap box, my high horse or from the self-help aisle of your local book store, because the thing is...

YOU HAVE ALL OF THE ANSWERS... I just happen to have the right questions.

Kathleen xo

IT'S NOT MY FIRST TIME

You’re still getting to know me and I’m still getting to know you and I want to start this virtual relationship of ours as honestly as I can.

So, here goes...this is not my first blog.

I had completely forgotten about the blog I started in 2006 titled ‘Club Sandwiches Not Seals’, a poorly written trip into my mind as a 22 year old. Actually, let’s not say ‘forgotten’ let’s say ‘repressed’.

It is clear in the blog articles written in my early 20’s that I had the qualities needed to succeed as a coach, long before I knew what coaching was and way before I knew what I really wanted for myself. The post below captures why this business I am creating is so aligned with who I am as a person. It was written on 16 November 2006.

Note: the post below hasn’t been edited (on purpose) Please excuse the poorly written article and boy band references.

Thursday, 16 November 2006 - The Underdog
I have, to the confusion of many, been known to go for the underdog on more than one occasion. Rock stars with drug problems, Rap artists who have more bullet wounds than hits, and...on an extreme occasion, gone for the curly haired guy from Human Nature.
I have always known this, however it struck me particularly hard whilst watching Casablanca last night. While I was crooning over "Here's looking at you kid" my fellow house mates were cringing.

You would be forgiven for theorising this quirk is simply my way of asserting a rare form of individuality. You could be right, however this doesn't explain my momentary McGuyver crush. After much thought...and coffee. I have stumbled across a theory that I believe is more accurate. Take a trip with me as I explain my "light bulb" moment of self awareness.

I have come to the realisation that I don't particularly like or aspire to perfection. I have no real interest in 'perfect' faces, 'perfect' teeth, 'perfect' lifestyle, 'perfect' personality. I have no problem with this, I simply see no challenge in understanding them as a person. I enjoy attempting to understand why a person has a drug addiction, why 50 refers to woman as "bitches" and why in Gods name curly haired guy just let his hair run free. I find imperfection attractive and is therefore why I believe I am attracted to their personalities.


So, if it’s not too early in our virtual relationship to say… I’m attracted to you. I want to hear your story, I want to know who you are and what you are about. I want to know about your dreams, however grey and imperfect and 'unachievable' they may seem. I want to listen. I want to understand and for you to know however imperfect you feel you are, I will be your biggest cheerleader.

Kathleen xo

WHAT I HOPE FOR YOU (AND FOR MYSELF)

My hope for you, for my clients and for myself.

"I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you're not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again"

"For what it's worth...it's never too late, or in my case too early to be whoever it is you want to be. There's no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people who have a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you're not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again" - F. Scott Fitzgerald

Kathleen xo

5 SIGNS YOU COULD BENEFIT FROM WORKING WITH A LIFE COACH

There's a common misconception that Life Coaches are for people who suck at life. Let me tell you, sucking at life isn't possible...we're all doing the best we can, right?

Wherever you are right now is exactly where you need to be. You need to experience the rain to see the rainbow but at some point you need to start moving yourself to better weather. So, at the risk of confusing the metaphor, here are 5 signs you could benefit from working with a Life Coach.

1. YOU MAKE THE SAME NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS EVERY YEAR, OR YOU’VE GIVEN UP ON MAKING THEM AT ALL It’s coming to the end of the year and you’re doing a mini ‘year in review’. There are things you want to change in your life and you’re counting the days and hours until NYE when you can wipe the slate clean and start again.

No point starting now, you know, ‘silly season’ and all of that. Next year is FINALLY going to be your year, you’re finally going to quit that job, lose that weight, get a new career, be more patient, eat salads…what you want for yourself is endless. The only problem is, you’ve made the same resolutions for so many years now that you're okay with the idea you'll probably fail again.

2. YOU’VE FAILED, TRIED AGAIN, FAILED AND YOU’RE NOT CONVINCED YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO GET WHAT YOU WANT. You’ve been on the merry go round of diets, you’ve tried the meditation, the yoga, the super foods, the gym, the diet shakes *shudder*. You’ve come to the conclusion that it’s you, you’re the problem…it’s hopeless.

3. EVERYONE’S GIVING YOU ADVICE BUT YOU’RE STILL STRUGGLING TO MOVE FORWARD
Our friends and family (mostly) have our best intentions at heart and they’ve been giving you all sorts of varied advice…still, you can’t move forward. They’re good ideas and you nod along in agreement but when it comes to the crunch you’re still stuck and you don’t know why.

4. ONE AREA OF YOUR LIFE SEEMS TO BE AFFECTING EVERYTHING ELSE. Everything is great except for one thing. You may have struggled with this area for a while and you just can’t seem to get over it. If you had this one thing sorted you’d be fine!

5. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE EXISTING, NOT LIVING
You wait for relief from your life. You live for the weekends, you live for the kids going back to school, you live for that glass of wine at the end of the day, that square of chocolate…that one thing that’s going to make everything else okay.

If this resonates with you it could be time to think about your options for working with someone who will be your biggest cheerleader and yet will hold you accountable for the goals you set for yourself. 

If you're interested in finding out more about the coaching process or what it's like to work with a Life Coach then get in touch through this site or by emailing me directly at kathleen@krcoaching.com.au

Until then, pull your shoulders back, put a smile on your face and plunge into life with force.

Kathleen xo

WHY COACHING?

I have been coming up with business ideas for as long as I can remember. Mostly, the ideas were to solve a problem I was having;

The infamous ‘Umbrella hat’ idea that combined my love of hats and my need for an umbrella. The ’Key Locator’, a panic button for locating your keys in a hurry, born from my tendency to leave my keys in the most ridiculous places imaginable. Inside a capsicum in the fridge is by far the strangest. It has been my lifelong goal to own and run my own thriving business but I really haven’t found anything that I wanted to work long and hard for. Until now.

Why this? Why now?

I was good at my job and I had a flourishing career but I wanted more. As it turns out it wasn’t difficult to find, in fact, a new opportunity found me. I got a new job that promised more responsibility, higher pay, more complexity and a big step up in my career. I was excited. This was what I had been working so hard for. This was it.

I couldn’t have been more wrong and what’s worse, there were giant red flags that I had ignored.

As the security pass for my new job was hung over my head I knew I had made a mistake. I had been flattered into taking a job that I knew, in my soul, was not for me. It was not the life I wanted for myself and it was certainly not the work I knew I should be doing. I did a pretty good job of hiding it and pretending it was going to be okay but deep down I knew this wasn’t something I could talk myself out of, no matter how hard I tried…and boy, did I try!

I came home one night and confided in my husband that I hated my job, I hated what I was doing and that I was completely lost. In his infinite wisdom he told me I’m not going to be any happier in another job and and that I should probably just figure out what it is that I really want to do. It stung. Was everything I had worked so hard for going to be thrown away?

..KR Coaching was born. My business ideas are no longer a problem I’m trying to solve for myself. This is about empowering you (yes, you!) to live the life that you want and deserve.

So, I am putting on the bravest face I can muster and leaping into the unknown. I have big dreams for where this is going and I can’t wait to share it with you. Forget the umbrella hat, this is going to be huge!

Stay tuned.

Kathleen xo